I am looking for balance…  I need to create balance by the thoughts I think, the way I feel and how I act!  If I were to step back and compare myself to the tires on my car, I would say, “my tires need to be rotated and balanced because the ride is a little bumpy.”



Today, my husband, Robert said; “you have been so busy, that you have not had time to blog!  When was the last time you really blogged?”  Well, I was awakened at 2 am and what better place to spend my time; at my computer, pouring out my heart! 😉



Doing the radio show, weekdays from 9 am to 10 am, on top of everything else I do, has been different and new.   However, I know my life is out of balance and here are my clues.



Clue #1 – I find myself wanting to stowaway in people’s luggage when I hear of their vacation plans.



Clue #2 – My body is in constant motion and when I sit for any length of time, my body thinks it’s time to sleep.



Clue #3 – My closet is a mess!!



For those of you who have never been to my house, I like everything in its place, especially right before company arrives. But even those who have been to my house have never, ever seen my messy closet.



Let’s take a journey into my closet!  My very messy closet…



This is a place where no one is allowed.  This is the place where I keep my clothes, shoes, pictures, books, and all the special treasures I buy as gifts throughout the year.  At times I’ll find trash gathered from my “last minute dash” to clean my room prior to guests arriving.



This closet has gotten so messy that every time I go into it I bump my head, jab my foot or trip on something.  Walking inside my closet is like walking a tight rope!  I am beginning to avoid going into my closet or even looking at it and my closet door remains closed.



Isn’t that what we do with our problems?  We shove them aside, ignore them, numb or hide them and blame others for them.  It never ceases to amaze me how simple it is…  When I clean my closet, I find that all is well within me.   But cleaning my closet requires awareness, action and acceptance!



My closet is a mirror into what is going on inside of me…  So, if I want to know if my life is out of balance…  I go to my closet!



What about you? Do you have a “mirror” or visual by which you can measure your balance?  If so, what is it?  A “catch all” drawer?  Too much sugar or unhealthy eating?  Excessive drinking of alcohol or taking that “little pill” that makes all our problems disappear?  Is it too much time at the gym or at work or watching TV?  We, in essence, close the door to our heart and refuse to deal with whatever is causing the “bumpy ride”.



We must sit and think; “is my life in balance?  If not, how can I achieve it?  What am I willing to do TODAY, to achieve the balance I desire?”  (Only YOU can answer those questions.)



For me, balance is near…  I can think, see and breathe it!  So, if you will excuse me, I am going to clean my closet, and my car and my office too!  Yes, I know what you are thinking…  “Overachiever!” 😉  Actually, I need to be what I want to create and so the mantra begins…   “ooommm, ooommm…  I am balanced, I am balanced, I am balanced!”



What do you want to achieve?  What is your mantra?  Share it today on “Friendly Friday”  Call the show at 321-631-1300!!!




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  1. I am a new fan of yours and this is the first blog of yours that I have read. I really admire your outlook on life and the words in this blog are exactly what I needed to read right now. I need to do some balancing/cleaning now that I think about it! My bedroom is certainly a reflection of how I am living my life. When work clothes are laying on the floor, I know I have been working a little too much and need to find some “ME” time.

    Love your website and Radio show! Truly an inspiration!

    I have also “followed” you on Instagram.

    Take care! 🙂

    • Dear Annie,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to write on my page… Your encouraging words made my heart smile!
      After I read your beautiful note, I decided to revisit the blog you had just read. Honestly, I too needed those words and I am grateful that you reminded me of this fact.
      Balance is like breathing… We do not breathe once and say, “I am done… Glad that is over!” No, balance is something we get to add to our busy lives, relationships, career, and most importantly, our spirit.
      It is amazing that even those who know better, need reminders to stop, breathe, look around and truly notice the signs that our lives are out of balance.
      Thanks so much for helping me take inventory of my life, today.
      So, if you will excuse me… Me gots some organizing to do! 😉
      I wish you Love, Joy, Peace & Unexpected Abundance… Make it The Best Day EVER!

  2. Lily, Organize that closet and the rest of the “places” you use. Remember GOD is in CONTROL. Aren’t you the one who used the Jar, the rocks, the sand and other stuff to DEMONSTRATE how GOD needs to be 1st and only then will all else fall into place? !!! I hold fast to that image and I have given HIM the TOP SPOT and HE takes care of everything else. I CAN NOT do it without HIM. I loved seeing you and Robert. You look wonderful. (Please be careful of the “mantra” word. It can lead others in the wrong direction–I know you do not intend) In His Love 🙂 <3

    • You are right… God is #1!
      One thing I have learned is that God is in Me and I can do all things with Him who gives me strength… Even clean my messy closet! 😉
      Loved seeing you at our CRHP 10 year reunion as well. My, how time flies!
      Much Love,

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