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“You can take a pill or you can take Responsibility!”

Everything that happens in life is perfect! Everything has a purpose but that purpose can be found when we go back, not to find fault but to learn & grow! When I am having a difficult time, it always helps when I take responsibility.

In order for us to take responsibility, it helps to ask and answer these four questions:

  • How did I create the situation? (This is not to find fault, blame or make you feel worse.  This is a “No Judgement” response!)
  • What did I learn or what are the gifts & lessons? (There is a blessing in everything that happens in life but we must look for it.)
  • What is going to be different?  (Now that you know how you created it and the gifts & lessons…  Now what?)
  • How will I use this experience to help others?  (When you are truly evolved and can observe every situation through the eyes of gratitude, you can help another going through the same thing.)

When life gives us lemons, we can choose for the lemons to make us feel sour or we can choose to turn the lemons into lemon meringue pie!  We are always in choice…  What will you choose?

I look forward to reading your stories…

You do not have to enter your name, email address, or website to answer below. You are welcome to share anonymously.

Here is my example of taking 100% Responsibility!

Four years ago, a company that offered to pay me almost twice my base salary and a commission structure to die for, recruited me!  I liked where I was employed but didn’t see how I would be able to make that kind of money and accepted the position.

Moving forward, the new company trained me and I was excited for this new opportunity.  I could not wait to exceed their expectations but quickly realized that the “sale cycle” took over 3 months.  (They knew this, as well but did not tell me.)  All was going well but towards 1 ½ months I was asked to provide my clients contact information and so I created a weekly log.  The pressure to perform increased and expectations were unreasonable but my new employers seem to love all my ideas and the progress I was making.  On the 89th day, they let me go.  They told me that the contract I signed had a 90 day “out clause” and they could let me go “without cause”.  They also told me that my non-compete would be enforced, so to not even think about working with the competition.  I was in shock and could not believe they had done this to me!  (This is my “victim” story!)

1.  I created this problem because I did not research this company and didn’t ask enough questions about the “out clause” or “non-compete”.   I also ignored my intuition…  I felt something was not right with this company but I let the money they were offering cloud my vision.

2.  I learned never to sign a contract without learning more about the company I am about to work with and will ask a ton of questions about “probationary” period.  The gifts & lessons were many and through the process of working for this company, I made great contacts.  I learned that I could rise to challenges and that I had a gift for connecting with people I just met.

3.  What is different is that I no longer sign “non-competes” and I now research my clients much better.  I listen to my intuition and follow my instincts.

4.  How will I use this experience?  Well, because I made so many wonderful connections, I was able to start my own company.  Three hours after I hung up with that dreadful call, I had my first client.  Six hours later, I had my second client!   I now had the freedom to be helpful to my clients without the expectations of an employer.  My goal is always to listen to my clients and by doing so I can provide the services and support they need while being true to my essence.

I feel empowered to not have remained a victim or harbor a grudge.  That experience, although painful, helped me see that these were lessons I needed to learn in order to push me to start my own company.  I never thought I would want this responsibility but the benefits are great; I can never be “let go” and I love my boss!  😉

I want to learn from you… become a teacher!!!  What is your “victim” to 100% Responsibility story?